Rant: Leadership & Extreme

If blogs were not made for one sided and self serving rants then what is?

I find it disturbing that people in this life and I do not care if they are experienced or novices that worry or seriously contemplate what they think are some heavy, deep and serious thoughts when they are quite idiotic.

What I am referring in specific are things like in extreme relationships what is too far or what is more important to the relationship great and wise leadership or the willingness of the other to be a slave.

Here is a somewhat  universal truth, any long term happy and loving relationship has two people that are compatible both day to day and what they want out of life in a long term sense and are devoted and committed to their relationship and the dynamic. As soon as you venture into thoughts about the other person changing into or thinking some great attribute you think you have can solve incompatible things and major relationship issues you are clueless.

There is a widely known Buddhist thought about what love is which is “Love is accepting a person/thing for who/what they are and not what they make you feel like or can do for you.” Buddhist we have a big all consuming thing for bad thoughts and actions adhering to them and other things that hinder enlightenment and we call them attachments. So as soon as we see another person as someone that will fix us and make us happy or think we can fix them to make us happy in essence a person does not love the person but have formed an attachment of what they want that in essence makes the other a discounted object.

So when people think that serious and deep thoughts when espousing on extreme relationships in essence all they are doing is forming attachments out of fear of such a relationship because it is not them. Also and very often including this, they have made an attachment by assigning a finish line or seeking out self esteem from an outside source by thinking they will be this if they get to that.

An extreme relationship is a relationship for which is for anyone who would not be compatible for and thusly not be allowed to be you and for your other to accept. Because when you are with someone that you love and each are loving the person for who they are and not what they provide the type of relationship will always be fairly easy and never extreme to you.

I do not care how good one’s leadership skills are if you are not with a compatible person and love them for who they are and trying to change them for how you want them is a narcissistic act. Leadership skills in a relationship are about making sure things are in place that let the two people flourish.

People waxing on what is what in terms of relationships or thinking leadership or a submissive being submissive enough are somehow keys to a relationship and how to get them and go about things of this nature are already have issues. They have chosen to look outside for their very personal answers that have to come from within you.