FYI: Safety and I

I get messages from people on the site frequently that I have posted a little bit on about since I am a doctor how I should write a lot more about safety in my posts and in particular in the group that is all about safety. I rarely if ever will talk about safety anywhere period and only occasion I will write about it is in something I think cannot be taken the wrong way or cause problems to someone who misreads it.

Here are the four reasons why I refuse to discuss safety. There really is not one more then the other that is a driving reasons as all of them are pretty big.

1) Cannot ever know all the individual facts of the user and simply not going to risk giving bad advice because even if one idiot takes advice from a complete stranger that is one too many. Call it legal liability or my experience as a doctor knowing just how stupid the human being is towards their own health regardless of IQ points and education. But people more often then not look for the easiest way out. Simply put most people read and hear what they want to and not what was actually written or spoken.

THERE CAN BE NO ALL ONE NOTE HEALTH ADVICE! The human body is an extremely complex machine and with so many variations in it naturally before you bother to factor into it age, health and any other current medical situation with it. There is no such thing as an educated informed comment of doing this is ok or harmful for most things that are not already obvious to a remotely sane human being. There is no way I am going to spew information and advice knowing all of it depends on the individual and at best minuscule histories they give online.

2) Call it an ego thing but I do not want to write something and get it challenged by anyone with an anecdotal example that may or may not even be remotely the same. Nor do I want to write anything and shut off all others sharing like what I write is final.

I am both way more qualified then most others who contribute to a topic but I am still not remotely thee authority on all things to even suggest when writing something that no one should not think about what I have written and just buy into it. (This by the way goes for any words typed in this blog!)

3) Safety in this life is talked about more out of controlling people then actual safety.

Almost all topics about safety and especially topics where people bring up safety are not places to bring up safety. What people are trying to do when a topic comes up and their main or only contribution to the topic is “it is dangerous and only/never…” type comments they are trying to make themselves look awesome. So people that bring up safety as why they do not do something are really trying to say those who do are fools, losers and sometimes abusers. When dominants bring up only doing something after then list their resume all they are really doing is I am awesome and all interested should start with me.

4) Even sincere people discussing safety often loose all perspective.

The problem when people take a subject and just write about safety issues is that often the only thing that is happening is a projection of the worse case scenarios being the most likely outcome. Often the odds can be extremely remote and there is no education and awareness actually going on but can make anything we do appear to guarantee certain death.

We as human beings take risks constantly in our lives on a daily basis. Downing caffeine in the morning has health and safety risks. Wearing heels has risks. Do we drive the safest car on the road and drive it the safest way and even if we do driving a car has risks. What are you eating and exercising habits, do you smoke and did you dress appropriate for the weather and not just for comfort or looks. Because all of these contain risks and most just as big if not a lot larger in our life then much of what is discussed online kinky community forums.

We as humans can only understand our risks and decide which ones we are willing to take and how far we are willing to do them in as safe as way as possible. I myself have consciously chosen to live a life of not being afraid to live and I am not going to contribute to fear mongers that use safety as a tool of manipulation and control. There is plenty of safety advice in cyber that one should NEVER take an opinion of one person or a few people you do not know on some kinky forum.