November 13, 2009

Watersports: Tips of the Trade

Wanted to write something less pompous and more fun then some of my latest posts, so in this post I wanted to just off the top of my head give some tips for those who aspire to have this kink in your life sometime down the road.

I have three general areas to go over:

It is so messy

Unfortunately the biggest drawback of piss play is that it is messy. Sure with practice two people can get no mess when it comes to drinking it but that is limiting all the fun to one specific way to do this wonderful kink. There are plenty of times I enjoy it that way but my favorite ways tend to be on my slave and not in him. Here are some tips in ways people do this kink to minimalize the mess:

1) Most common place people do this is of course the good old bathtub. The biggest problem with the bathtub it is not the most spontaneous and cool type atmosphere out there. Quite often wanting to do this as part of a bigger picture thing and to basically stop go to the bathroom is quite the atmosphere killer. One tip is if you want this in your life to plan it in ways where you can incorporate the bathroom into a situation you want to do this to your slave. There is a reason maybe the most common way is the old first thing in the morning before the normal hop into the shower. Other good ways is have some grooming thing where the slave is serving in some capacity that you are already in the bathroom or nearby.

2) The kiddy pool. One of the favorite things to have for watersports enthusiasts and easy to place pretty much anywhere and easy to cleanup afterwards makes it so.

3) Utilize the great outdoors. If you do not think when I have gone looking for places to live that looking for a place that offers the best  opportunity for piss play factored into my decision you would be very much wrong. Maybe not at the top of the list but certainly thought about. For those that do not have any natural privacy outdoors there is always the ability to put up a privacy fence for a small area and in fact know of two couples who did just that.

4) Basements and hardwood floors. Now I can be viewed as different. Between my job where I am immune to body fluids grossing me out and this is a fetish for me I am not one to be concerned of being in a spot where warm piss was a half hour ago.

5) Rubber sheets in a spare bedroom. A popular one for couples really into this kink that gives most of the options available for this kink whether starting out in that room or going into that room the coldness of a bathroom, garage or basement can be eliminated.

On tips #4 and #5 remember some potential ease of thoughts, one can do piss play and control the mess by things like not emptying a full bladder or wearing clothes that soak up a lot of the piss. The second is of course cleanup is a slave’s job and can incorporate fun in that as well!

Drinking it

1) You hear the words all the time when people discuss this topic or ask for tips about not spilling, “training the slave not to miss a drop”. The truth is training is often at the minimum equal effort and often the mistress trains herself more by being able to start/stop and control the amount of the flow. Best not to forget that when training it can be a two way street.

2) The wonderful funnel. Simple and easy to use and makes this type of play portable to pretty much anywhere. An item I would never not have.

3) Idealized ways are great but ease and convenience can count for something. Sure the idealized view of this kink is a dominant pissing directly into the mouth of the slave and the slave not missing a drop. But there is nothing wrong with pissing into a glass if one is looking for ease/less messy or the dominant is still working on their bashful bladder.

4) The old drinks lots of water down before hand to make it easier to go and to dilute the taste. Solid and most common tip. I have always believed the dilute the taste is like the what a man eats changes the taste of his cum. To me maybe for people with refined pallets or still having difficulties and aversions to doing both of them there can be a big difference. But I think for most people the actual taste is not going to dramatically change all that much.

Getting over the ick factor

1) Go slow! Build up to the more idealized ways to do in this kink. When building up pissing on a slave start with just on their feet and work your way up over time. Start while they are lying in the shower with the shower running on them. When drinking it start out with them just sucking a finger that has a drop or two on it, water it down in a glass and slowly build up to a more pure drink and not all of it the first few times.

2) Atmosphere! This is such a huge thing in relationships in general and certainly in power exchange and kinky things. The better the atmosphere the better the results will always be. The more excitement, enjoyment and arousal you can show for doing this before, during and after the more the other person who is trying to embrace it will enjoy it or at the very least wanting to endure it for you. An evil smile and some verbal taunts can go a long way.

3) It is not pass or fail course. One should not show being not happy with the slave if they did not meet your expectations. One should be positive to help with them being encouraged and wanting to do better next time.

4) Practice makes perfect. The more frequent you do this kink the easier it is for people to move pass the ick factor and it can just become a wonderfully pleasant commonly accepted thing. Going long periods of time between doing this kink can be a use it or lose it thing and not a get back on the bicycle thing.

Watersports often suffers from limited cliché ways of how we imagine them done and the limitations of wanting to minimalize the mess. But to me personally one of the very special things that make watersports a wonderful kink to indulge in is that with some thought there are so many ways to do it that you can find ways that work for the people involved.

2 comments:

  1. Jen,

    I would like to say how much I appreciate your writings. You are remarkably level-headed and insightful. Your writings confirm many things I sensed but could not put into words so well as you did.

    I think that femdom has great potential as a means of organizing relationships in this modern era, but it sure needs more realism.

    It is women like you that keep me from despairing (too much). Keep up the good work!

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  2. Thank you for the kind words. I was very much motivated to start this by wanting to be a voice of more realism and showing that a mistress can enjoy the kinky things as well.

    Jen

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I welcome and enjoy any comments, opinions and questions including the bad and ugly. I only have one request and that you always refer to me as Jen. That is my name and no formalities like Mistress or Madam.