Strap-on Fun

Where is the pleasure for a female to do this to a submissive?

I was reading some responses to a somewhat similar question on a message board where some of the female players chose to see an opportunity to male bash and show complete lack of understanding that if they do not enjoy it that means no one else can from the female dominant stand point.

So in order to make this short and simple here are all the reasons a female dominant might enjoy fucking their slave’s ass:

1) It arouses them! Let us start out with the duh most blatant obvious one. Why it might turn on someone instinctively who knows but just as relevant who cares. Why does a man in uniform make so many women get instantly aroused? Why are flowers and jewelry appreciated by so many? At some point it is just best to accept the fact it just is what it is.

2) The domination aspect of doing a guy in his ass is the turn on.  Probably for most female dominants that like this type of play this is probably quite a big motivation. It is unfortunate but the local community populace who communicate this life in a way to always be advertising to strangers and female dominants with no passion for the domination and submission aspects critical to a power exchange relationship often seem to go out of their way to pretty much pop a balloon in any ones fun. They almost always do this by communicating just how much they do not find any enjoyment in various things or act in such a dispassionate way they take the joy out of everything. While by absolute no means do they or should they do things that have no appeal to them on the premise of that is what a female dominant should do it is often quite alarming why so many are so clueless to the enjoyment and arousal to be taken in things based on the domination aspect of them.

Doing a man in his ass for the most part is for many on both sides of the dildo something that goes straight to domination and submission feelings. For many that fit and lust after power exchange relationships that in itself makes something enjoyable, beneficial and worthwhile doing.

3) Must have some discipline around here! Unfortunately again the cyber female dominant players have tried convincing the world that a sincere male submissive is a naturally selfless person who automatically has to put his other needs and desires way above any of his own and that is pretty much it. This as I have already written extensively is quite an idiotic joke. Both dominants and submissives have levels and degrees that go toward our domination and submission levels. The more severe we want a power exchange relationship the more we have to help feed the energy for both roles to get to the levels and degrees we desire.

This is the reason why kinky things are talked about hand in hand with power exchange. Because often the kinky things done, regardless if or if not sexual arousal is the goal, often feed us this energy in a way most people call discipline. This is something not often discussed in femdom due to what I wrote above. But you can read this all the time with female submissives needing play/discipline session and if any one is familiar with domestic discipline relationships there practicing of spanking goes toward exactly what I am writing about.

4) Strap-on play is an aspect of a type of play that is enjoyable for the dominant. Quite simply if one enjoys gets aroused by degrading or humiliating their slave then this could be a really nice thing to do because most men really tap into those emotions when you are fucking them. Dress a man up in a short dress, some nylons and whatever to feminize him, fuck him in the ass like a girl to get yourself all aroused and then leave him to go out on a date with a “real” man already sexually charged can just be good fun.

5) Because the slave likes it. Oh the horrors a dominant doing something just because the male slave enjoys something. Maybe they will take away my dominant license? We are in relationships and there are no such types of relationships in terms of healthy, loving and caring where sometimes people of all types do things for the other person. Whether out of love, the strong desire of that moment wanting to rock their world or just certain situations where we have no desire to we still will do things solely because of our love and commitment to our other. We all have gone to movies because our other is really jazzed to see a movie we have no interest in. We have all gone to weddings and family events where we knew no one because of being in a loving relationship. Well pounding your lover’s ass because he enjoys it can fit many types of situations and feelings for us to do such a thing.

One last note:

A man who either takes a strap-on because he is ordered to or just because the female wants to do it to him or if a man enjoys getting fucked in the ass by his woman does not make a man gay or even bisexual. Please see all the reasons I just wrote above and turn them around on the slave’s mind and you can see all the reasons why a male might enjoy getting it up the ass by his woman.

People that promote if you get fucked in the ass, forced to suck a cock and the man is ok in doing that, eat another man’s cum and other things makes a man gay are dealing with their own issues. Often people in a bigoted fashion throw out the gay word to feed their low self esteem by judging others inferior to themselves. But also in femdom a lot of female dominants will throw this out for two other reasons 1) to control a situation as they have no interest in doing this and do not want to be asked to 2) some actual fear of a man may in fact be gay and dump them.

The second may sound like it validates the thought I am dispelling but it does not. Sure a man can be secretly or in denial about his sexual attractions but that is one possible reason for enjoyment in this area and not the only possible reason. The fact is people of both genders have had their hearts destroyed and confidence in their judgment and relationships decimated by falling and being with someone who is in denial or just hiding their sexual preference. It does not justify one note reasoning that some may do but it does not mean it can be automatically dismissed as well.

But most men in femdom that likes a good ass fucking enjoy it for the domination aspect, the sexual intimacy or are into humiliation and degradation. My type of men!